it’s just an opinion and everybody has one

March 11, 2014 at 10:14 am (end stage congestive heart failure, heart failure and exhaustion, how does it feel to die, living with dying, peace of heart, support system, the dr. says, words of wisdom) ()

last weekend my sister posted a question regarding suze orman. she wondered if anyone else found her mean-spirited (my words not hers).  angie stated she had stopped watching her when she really turned on some guy and pretty much told him his situation was hopeless.

i had seen part of the same show angie was referring to and had not finished watching.  i have not watched her for years.  not that she isn’t very savvy financially.  she just doesn’t know how to relay her message in a kind and caring way.  the times i watched her i believed she cared about other’s climbing out of the hole they had dug.  however, over the years her message has taken on a hardness and at times she ridicules those who have come to her in great need.

at the bookstore and costco i am aware of all the self-help books that cover a wide range of topics.  then there are the political books and religious guides.  some of you are going to be offended by this and for that i apologize.  i can not let that keep me from talking about my truth.

in the end these are all someone’s opinion. even books based on science are and can be tainted by the author’s point of view.  there is a better chance that science won’t be biased but most of us don’t want to read science alone.

we want to read books that support our way of thinking not those that challenge what we think is true.  over the years i have been a proponent of personal truth.  my grandmother started explaining this to me before i could really understand what she meant.  this woman who raised me in abject poverty with only a second grade education, will always be the wisest woman i have ever known.

her way of looking at the world brought her peace and contentment.  she shared this with me and i believe it has been my saving grace.  it is all opinion and that person’s truth.  we can take it or leave it. how simply beautiful, respectful and a peaceful way to live.

she passed from the same heart disease i now live with.  if i am moving down this path with more ease than some it is thanks to her.  if i am, and i believe i am, moving down this path with ease it is thanks to my family.  to have a family that loves, cares and understands how you need to make this walk is a great gift.  to have friends, including my friends here, that get you and love you regardless is a great gift.  to have friends who share their experience with you and trust that you can care about them regardless of your own situation, that is a gift.  for women who play bridge with your husband and have become shining examples of how to do this with grace, they are a gift.

suze orman could learn so much from them.  all of these people could teach her how to be supportive and caring while being an example of success.  you never need to belittle another human being.  if you want other’s to learn and hear your message be an example through love and kindness.  that is my opinion, love and kindness.  i have been blessed with these gifts from other’s and hope to pass it on.  what will you pass on? how will you share you wisdom? i hope it is with kindness and love.

my grandmother as a young woman.




  1. Syl Miller-Davenport said,

    What a beautiful woman. I see her in you. You are a blessing. I often think of the chats we had. I am honored to be counted among your friends. Love and hugs to you, Syl

    • s blake callahan said,

      if i am like her even the tiniest bit i am blessed. you will always be counted amongst my friends dear syl. love and big warm hugs to you

  2. prenin said,

    Your grandmother sounds fantastic! 🙂

    I don’t see this Suze Armon on TV, but I don’t watch all that much TV! 🙂

    Glad you are still the friend I have come to love and care for! 🙂

    Love to you and Chris!!! 🙂


    • s blake callahan said,

      i think you would like her and she would like you very much.

      susie ormen is an american financial advisor and she is very harsh when she talks to people who have come to her asking for advice.

      we send you love and hugs dear friend;)

  3. Judy said,

    Your grandma looks so lovely and warm. I wish I could have known her!

    • s blake callahan said,

      she was/is a beautiful spirit and i think of her every single day. i wish you could have known her too, she passed away from the same heart disease

  4. appletonavenue said,

    Your grandmother sounds like an amazing woman. She must have been to have raised such an outstanding woman.

    What do I hope to leave behind? I’m working on that. I want my grandson to learn the virtues of silence. It is a tough go with his disabling ADHD. I am also trying to set an example of the virtue of peace to my entire family. I hope I am successful.

    • s blake callahan said,

      to be that example, as my grandmother was to me, for your family is a gift that gets passsed on for generations to come. i believe you will be remembered for your passion, joy and love of family.

  5. jmgoyder said,

    Your grandmother looks beautiful. I have never heard of this suzie person but I agree with you wholeheartedly.

    • s blake callahan said,

      susie is of course an american phenom! angie started watching her on t.v. and had to turn it off as she was so harsh with a guy who needed advice. i didn’t watch, i know i don’t want to spend my time on someone who is mean-spirited.

      thank you and of course i loved her terribly and thought her beautiful both physically and in spirit. you would have liked her and she would loved you

      • jmgoyder said,

        You are like your grandmama then! As for suzie – yuck

      • s blake callahan said,

        if you have not seen/heard susie orman you have not missed someone special. i do hope that i am something like my grandmother:)

  6. Al & Alice said,

    I really like when you get into a subject that pulls me up short. You raise the type of questions that most of us do not want to address, me included. The trusting in another enough to share our real feelings really strikes home with me. Being a male makes it even more difficult, but I found that if I open myself up and be more vulnerable, some men with reciprocate. It’s time like this that being a female is better. Most important, you have left me with a question that I have to answer for myself. What will I pass on and how will I share the wisdom I have acquired through my life’s experiences? Tough question, but one that should be addressed before it’s too late. BTW, I think I would have liked to know your grandmother.

    • s blake callahan said,

      literally everyone who ever met my grandmother either liked or loved her. BTW i know she would have loved you and alice. that is just who she was.

      chris belonged to a men’s group when we lived in calif. and they met regularly. they talked openly about issues that many men don’t like to share. he has not found that kind of men here. although something interesting happened at his monthly poker game. one of the older men said he was going to need to stop playing due to his dementia. the sad thing is chris is the only one who acknowledged what he said.

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