reality checks vs sparing feelings

November 28, 2013 at 10:08 am (Uncategorized) (, , , , , , )

there has been some conversation regarding the like button.  since the first time i read a blog this has bothered me.  if i press like does it mean to that person what it means to me?  at times i have struggled not to explain what the like button means to me.  should i use valuable space and time saying what the person surely knows? what if they don’t know?  when are we called upon to be more than a click person and give our honest input?

in the beginning i noticed the occasional hurt feelings as a comment was a bit too honest for the blogger.  if we are not inviting honesty then why have a like button or a comment section?  we don’t have to allow either do we?

i find that a reality check for myself is often what i am looking for.  if someone agrees then i feel validated which is very nice, if i receive a comment that was unexpected it gives me pause.  i for one appreciate knowing that a comment is not some rubber stamp given without much thought.  knowing that someone has taken the time to think about what i am sharing and cares enough to risk an opinion means the world to me.

one commenter that has at times taken me to task is laurie.  she asks the hard questions and let’s me know that she doesn’t see my way of thinking working for her.  i appreciate that, i am not so unsure of myself that everyone needs to agree with me..

on the other hand i would be dishonest if i didn’t say here that i so appreciate knowing i have friends here who support me.  i just think you can be supportive and honest at the same time.

this whole like button issue is more of a nuisance than not.  if i don’t press it will someone think i didn’t like their post?  are we over-thinking the whole like button thing a bit too much?

well, like scarlett o’hara, i will think of this another day.  due to bad weather we were not able to go to charleston and be with family for thanksgiving.  of course being raised in native tradition it was not one of our “celebrated” holidays as i was growing up.  it is only in my adult years that i make the effort.  so let’s just hope i don’t set the oven on fire yet again, the last few times i made turkey that is what happened.

today as always i am grateful for so many things, my family and friends being right at the top.  hope you can click the like button for that:)

 

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